Sibling Domestic Violence

   

My brother Jason

I am a domestic violence survivor! Domestic violence follows life's great apathy. I have experienced it. Domestic Violence does not choose. Sibling domestic violence includes: 

1. Male-male domestic violence
2. Male-female domestic violence
3. Female-female domestic violence
4. Female-male domestic violence
5. Parent-child domestic violence
6. Child-parent domestic violence
7. Sibling-sibling domestic violence

     Sibling domestic violence exists. Sibling domestic violence is underrated, yet most likely the most common form of domestic violence. Sibling domestic violence is also controversial. From my readings, the question of when does sibling rivalry becomes sibling domestic violence becomes paramount. Maybe it was never sibling rivalry, but domestic violence. 

     In general sibling domestic abuse is not about relational rivalry, but relational aggression. Specifically, Sibling domestic violence is distinguished from sibling rivalry by the following characteristics. First, the characteristics that I clearly experienced from my brother:

1. One child always avoids the other sibling.
2. Roles are rigid. One child is always the aggressor; one aways the victim
3. The roughness and violence has increased over time
4. Attempts to "frame" the other sibling

The other characteristics I cannot clearly define in myself, but are nevertheless characteristics:

1. Changes in behavior, routines, and patterns
2. Child acts out abuse in play
3. Child acts out sexually in inappropriately ways.
4. Sexual assault by the abusive sibling

     My brother, Jason committed domestic violence against  my mother and I. In my mother case I believe Jason's response was reactive abuse. He was reacting to all the abuse in the family. Nevertheless it was abuse. In my case, my mother seems to have favored me over Jason. This may have been the root of Jason sibling domestic abuse that he started in our pre-teen years. I am now 50. It is getting worse

     Jason has involved my half sister Ava School Board Candidate Anna Gamboa, and the abusive step mother, VFW Post 5993 Auxiliary President Robin Reinartz who attempted top lead me into her backyard to harm me. It is not safe being in their house and I fear for my niece and nephew.

     All of these life events with Jason have led me to create a program to help people whose sibling abusers in adulthood constantly skirt the law while abusing a sibling. The law has failed. It is time to find proactive rather than reactive  ways of ending sibling domestic violence. Those experiencing sibling abuse currently must fight back. Join the campaign to end sibling domestic violence. If you think you might be the recipient of sibling domestic violence call the National Domestic Violence Hotline now!